Friday, 13 July 2018

The Importance

Without delving too much into the apologies and explanations of the in between's of not blog posting. Here are a few very important life lessons, teachings, experiences I've had the pleasure of realising and living through this past week. Life is demanding. We're always trying to get somewhere. We're always trying to live up to expectations; whether it's someone else's or your own. We're always trying to live these lives that sometimes down the line don't make sense and we lose track of things that once used to be important to us.

1. A realization of self love or the lack thereof: I have been extremely hard on myself this year. I have lost a lot of my true sense of person. Hardcore and a little insecure putting it out there to the world; but yes. It is that easy to forget who you are when you mute yourself, pop yourself on autopilot, when you don't stay track of the things that remind you of why you are. Yes, why you are, not who you are. We all have a sense of who we are. Most of us anyway. But why you are, is a whole different topic.

I used to enjoy a bunch of things. I stopped doing said bunch of things and bam I don't even know what I'm doing anymore,

The realization came through earlier this week when I watched a yoga channel video on Youtube. Without getting too fangirl or too "spiritual", these videos hit home and some of the simple advice like " do something you love" got me thinking about the things that I used to love doing. These things were a few reasons of why I am. These things gave me reason. But it made me sad to think that I don't do these things anymore and I don't want to be that way anymore.

Simply put, I've started doing things that used to excite me, it's a learning journey ahead right now and I'm slowing trying to figure shit out, what I like, what I used to like and what I don't like doing anymore. But one thing for sure is that I still feel the same way about writing stuff, here especially.

So simply put, do one thing in the next week that you enjoy; enjoyment is form of self love and whether it's a long bath to remember how to clean yourself efficiently or watching a movie that you once Loooved. Start here. Start now.

2. The importance of kindness and sometimes being soft: So we all know a couple of bitter/stressed people. I am usually a bitter/stressed person but once every few months I turn into sunshine and rainbows. Man oh man are these good days, today was a good day. Today is definitely a blog day. Let's chat about kindness.
It's not generally easy for some people to be kind. I'm appealing you to, if you're one of those people that have genuine kindness all the time and muttering to yourself "what a bitch...", hear me out.
Characteristics.emotions and personality are difficult human traits, we are who we are. Sometimes we are happy, sometimes there are people who are naturally charismatic and sometimes there are people who have not been touched by kindness in a day or lifetime and unfortunately need to be reminded that there is something as simple as offering a smile or gesture.

Personally, there are days where I am the latter and there are days where I try to be the ray that a person needs. Give and take kindness is something I was reminded of today. Everyday will not be the same and you will react differently as with emotions. T
his brings me to the importance of softness; people if there is anything you take away from this blog let it be this. " You can experience every kind of rage and anger and sadness and every other emotion in this world but I hope you always find your place of softness". What the hell is softness, Sash you ask? Well softness simply put is peace. Find your peace within any irregular outburst and if you can't then let everything out and come back to center and find your peace. Apologise and simply calm the fuck down. You'll feel tons great. I promise. Find a moment of stillness after shouting at someone. People remember your rage a lot more in situations but the ability to regather and find yourself will give you the strength to be a better person. I'm gonna try that.

3. The great importance of comfort: So without throwing out too much. If you have a chronic medical condition or push yourself out of your comfort a little too much, this point is definitely one for you. I suffer from a ton of digestive conditions. I am uncomfortable 50% of the time. It sucks, I have no control over it sometimes but the one thing I truly let myself do within the last week was be comfortable as much as possible and you know what? Who the fuck ever said you can't make a situation work for you? No, it's us that constrain our problems. Got the runs? Hide it because you're embarrassed in front of work colleagues? Mind you, everyone on the planet has bowels. My point is that we are human and go through things. You owe it to yourself to be as comfortable in your skin as possible. I do understand this is not possible everywhere, all the time but hell, do as much as possible with what you have to be comfortable, wear comfortable clothes and shoes, sleep with 4 pillows and 3 stuffed animals, cuddle your spouse, whatever floats your goat! Work in office? Take your damn hot water bottle to work. Cold winter getting you down? Go ahead and buy yourself that faux throw you've been eyeing at Mr Price Home. You owe it to yourself to give your body, mind and spirit what it deserves and what is within your means. Comfort yourself!   

4. The importance of fierceness: Not all the time anyway. Having mentioned the importance of softness and inner peace. The importance of being fierce is a battle 75% of us struggle with. I totally made up that number but I'm sure lots of us struggle anyway. This is just a friendly reminder that you have a voice. Use it. No, I don't mean argue with the Pick and Pay cashier when she doesn't pack your groceries right. Defensive is sometimes offensive. Offensive is not bad all the time but if you act like a bitch, you're gonna draw in some bad vibes people. Don't do that. Be fierce by being you; air your opinions constructively, stand up in the right way for what is right. Not everyone is going to agree with you, but remember words put out there into the air is better than them festering in your mind and hearts. Communicating clearly is being fierce!

5. The importance of time/love/money:  There has probably been thousands if not millions of books going into deep detail about how to be grateful, how to plan around and how to get/make time, money and love. But this week for me, is being grateful for the amazing friends and family around me. The people I work with, make my coffee, the old uncle car guard at McDonald's. This is love in it's own right and being appreciative towards this reminds me of how love and other emotions work. Time on the other hand I've learned this week is not a commodity. Use it with thought and appreciate that invisible ticker above your head. Make more of it and do the things you love, spend time with people, breathe and appreciate everything under the sun. Money; I bought myself a stuffed unicorn today. Money is always tight. But it comes around. Save for a rainy day but buy the damn unicorn when your heart really wants it.

Catch ya later kitties.
Enjoy the weekend.

Sunday, 3 June 2018

Mangwanani Sibaya Review

So last year sometime I had the lovely pleasure of venturing off to a whole half day spa treat at the Mangwanani Spa in Sibaya north of Durban! What a treat it was! We had the p.m slot which started at around 1pm and ended just after 4pm. The entire treat comprised of lunch; a delectably LARGE portion of chicken curry from a cute little potjie pot, a serving of tumeric rice that was smaller than a usual indian person is used to and a serving of tomatoe salad/sambles to finish off the meal. 

The treaments comprised of a relaxing back, neck and shoulder masssage outside on the deck. A foot scrub and massage outside under a little patio surrounding by a serene water feature, honestly transporting you to a different universe and lastly a full body massage to end off what would be a treat to remember for a lifetime. 

The spa also offers a little shop to purchase goodies used in the treatments and also offers an option of high tea, booked in advance for a specific time of course. 

I know I'm posting this pretty late like almost a year and a half ago but really, it was sitting in a draft in my posts awaiting many moons for some kind of attention. Just like this post, I have a ton of others based on a few experiences I've had and ignored for a little while. While the point of my blog is partially to pen down all my life experiences and realiastions I've also wanted to pop any fun experiences I've had. So expect a few more like this and give us a shout in the comments if you enjoy them!

Have a great week kitties! 

Tuesday, 24 April 2018

It's Okay Not To Be Okay

Hey blog readers,

Today, after many moons, I have been bitten by the blog bug. I must admit that adult life has crept in silently while I've been adjusting to life as a 24 year old, steering newfound semi-adulthood and learning how to get up in the mornings without falling asleep in the bathtub. Not easy at all.

But in between the 10 hour work days and exhausting evenings I've found myself like many others losing a sense of self and not feeling okay for a little while. I've not blogged, read or even part took in any activities I used to enjoy in the last few odds months. I have no one but myself to blame in a case like this, for not feeling okay but you know what? It's okay not be okay sometimes.

Something I have learnt over this space of time is that once you realise you're not okay; you have to decide if/when you want to feel okay again. It's really fine if this takes some time. Do not bow to any pressure. You are one person and you do not have to carry the burden of anyone pressurizing you.


  • You're human, not a magically space monkey that has superpowers that can cure cancer overnight. You will err, you will fail, you will make a hundred mistakes over again. Forgive yourself; heal; move on. You will wake up tomorrow and try again. 
  • Take 5 minutes. To breathe, to regenerate, to walk and to clear your head. You owe yourself 5 minutes in a moment of stress or despair.
  • Don't forget to breathe and be aware of your breath. In front of your laptop in your office, while going for an afternoon run on the promenade or while sitting in your car during peak hour traffic. Breathe in and out and do it again; clear your mind and thoughts.
  • Take care of yourself. Change your bed sheets, feed yourself some good wholesome food or a large candy bar just because you want to, take that plunge and apply for that dream job. Do things that make you happy, your body and mind will automatically feel like you're taking care of it. 
  • Embrace your day. If you're having a shitty or super fantastic day; mark it on your calendar/diary. Often we fill our calendars with appointments, meeting and occasions taking in all the activities: morning run, coffee with Kate, operations meeting with John etc. But when's the last time you've taken 10 minutes to embrace yourself within a jam packed day? Don't live on autopilot and find yourself struggling to differentiate between last Tuesday and today. Live in the now, be aware and embrace life fully. 
So there we go, 
Let's hope I take my own advice and make it back here next week.
Here is also a picture of a puppy if you still don't feel okay:

Monday, 18 December 2017

Mall Girl's Guide to Survival: 5 tips on how to survive festive shopping

Yes, I'm a terrible blogger. No, I will not stop trying!

Heeeeeeeeeey to all you festive peeps! I have great hope that everyone is enjoying this joyous and festively merry time of year! Friends, food, laughter and most importantly; shopping!

Over the years, I've slowly gathered an abundance of knowledge on malls; the sales, best take-away times and how to avoid rude customers and their Grinch-like behavior. I figured, with it being Christmas and all, why not share a little bit of Christmas spirit and dish out on some of the things I've learnt.

Here's 5 Top Tips on how to survive shopping malls this festive season:

1. Lead with an arm and keep your handbag close to you: In a busy crowd? Can't seem to get through? Stick your hand out and disperses the crowd. This not only signals intention to move but also makes said bunch of people very uncomfortable thus resulting in an immediate split of crowds in an area. While doing this, keep your handbag close to you; possibly in front of you if you have a sling bag or under your coat; also making sure that your bag is zipped/inaccessible. Guys, keep your wallets buried deep inside your pockets or girlfriend's handbag.

2. Leave your kids at home: With a trusted adult of course; grandma, trusted friend or babysitter. Your hopefully purposeful shopping experience will be rewarded by not having to constantly be mindful of another tiny human being alongside you or said tiny human being irritating the crap out of other shoppers. Spoil your little human being with a treat once you're back home.

3. Shop in the a.m: There is a beautiful time in between Thanksgiving and Christmas; the time before school is out and just before the decorations are out. This time of year is the perfect time to shop and promptly before 1pm; take note people that this time is the time you want to be shopping; when malls are quiet and you have the freedom of movement between isles. While that time has passed. the cardinal rule of shopping the morning still allows you an arm length of time/freedom and the ability to pay bills and shop in a clothing store before everything goes to shit. Not to mention the beautiful choice of Christmas goodies in food markets; I mean try getting a dozen cinnamon doughnuts after 10am at Woolworths i.e. not gonna happen!

4. Food: Do not attempt to sit down and part-take in what would seem like a beautiful brunch of sorts with your girlfriends or significant other. This will result, in most cases an utter disaster; rude waiters, sloppy food and waiting around forever for a table in order to enjoy a 1.5 hour meal that often leaves one unsatisfied and not wanting to come back to the restaurant again; 9 times out of 10 it is a fabulous restaurant that is unfortunately victim to the holiday season and it's woes for mall staff. So simply take yourself to a quick take-away and grab some food for on the go; a wrap, smoothie, sandwich; whatever that doesn't need cutlery. Better yet, eat at home; it saves you the time and money.

5. Pack light, wear the right shoes, plan ahead: So throwing in a bunch of advice into one tip. Prepare! Christmas shopping is serious business people and we all know if you plan on throwing a fantastic Christmas lunch or giving some kick-ass presents this year, we need to know what the hell we're doing. Therefore, free your hands by packing a little handbag/sling bag with the necessities; cash, cards, tissues and some hand-sanitizer; 3 out of 5 people catch colds at this time of year out of sheer disrespect of human boundaries i.e. sneezing in your hands and touching the escalator handle etc; the world is brutal people; come prepared! Wear flat comfortable shoes; this is no brainerl I shall not explain further. Prepare yourself, make your shopping lists, plan the route of shops you're going to visit and space yourself out to make sure you have enough time to visit your favourite stores!

So there, I hope everyone that everyone reading has a pleasant festive period, full of rest, food and love. Take it easy and don't forget to share your top holiday tips below!

Sunday, 8 October 2017

Get Real

Let's get real here for a second?

It's Sunday, 14:34pm South African time and here I sit with unwashed hair, sniffling through my sinus congested nose while attempting to plan my week.

But get this? I can't. I can't today and thinking about the week ahead is almost too much. Do you feel like that too? Maybe not today, maybe not yesterday either but there was probably a time in the past, probably will be a time in future and it's okay. It's okay to feel this way and I'm really reaching a place of peace within myself and around me, that sometimes it is okay to take a break.

There is a possibility that "society" or life around us put a sense of pressure on us and we feel the necessity to bow to that. But perhaps today you should take a minute to collect yourself and calm the fu*k down for once? You don't have to have it together 24/7, 365 days a year, because we all need a break.

I started a new job 2 months ago (yay!); yes, leaving behind #MallGirlProblems was hard enough and adjusting to new a life, new working hours, new wardrobe (definitely not as glam as you think) and new problems/ learning lessons every day is hard enough. But this new experience teaches me something new about life everyday, teaches me how to grow up and how to be.

I'm not sure if anyone else has struggled with this, but here's me, putting out another problem into the universe. Do you ever struggle with finding who you're meant to be, how you're meant to dress. how you're meant to act in the world. I mean, who are you really? #YoungPeopleProblems perhaps?

This is a question Sash in Between has struggled with. Turning 23 and living through 9 months of it, still unable to figure things out has had me on end about life from the word "go". I double I will figure it out in the near future but here are a few things I've learnt from being ever confused about this whole adolescent to adult thing:

  • Live actively. This step is simpler than you think, it doesn't involve dumbbells or treadmills unless you want it to. Over the last 3 years I found myself on autopilot with certain aspects of my life. I went with it; the saying "only dead fish go with the flow" and I was the dead fish. Up until I realised that I don't know who I am or what I want because I had no active interest in finding out. That changes once you take an active role in your life. Look at what you're doing, what you're eating and how you eat, look at colours around you and what you surround yourself with. Its simpler than it sounds. You just have to live with your eyes open. 
  • What do you enjoy doing? What would you enjoy doing the moment you get up? A friend of mine asked me this question a few days when I spoke about what I thought I wanted to do after school. Now isn't it sad that not everyone does what they want, even though we all have the capabilities and more than often, the talent to pursue our dreams. I feel like this is one of the finer details of life that people often neglect. Don't let life overcome your dream if you have one.
  • Eat well. Eat happy. No, don't eat a tub of ice-cream in one go, space it out over a week rather? Your eating affects your life. I'm not going to preach or advocate you eat a bowl of salad at 12pm every day. Eat what you want but be aware of how it affects your body. Not everybody can handle a cup of coffee every morning, not everyone can eat breakfast. Life is such that food affects us differently. I've found that to be huge factor in my life recently. 
  • Take a break, breathe, regenerate. Life is hard ya'll. We burn out, we don't want to be alive every second of every day sometimes. Really feel what you're feeling whether it's anger, love or pain. The moment you start rejecting what you feel is when you go numb, when your life switches onto autopilot and when you start thinking that life is just something we have to get through till we eventually die. Don't let it be that way.
  • For the love of God and all that is precious in the world, stop reading those "5 things that powerful/ organised/punctual women/men do to get through the day", it will only confuse the sh*t out of you and what/how you're supposed to be in the world which essentially; is who you create yourself to be. So don't let anyone tell you how to life your life unless you're like 5 and your parents take care of you, no joke; listen to your parents; you are not molded enough to make decisions yet. 
So I don't claim to know all the answers. In fact I'm far from it. I'm 23 and no where close to having my life/soul organised But I hope that this is somewhat helpful to those in the same boat as I am. 

Share your journey in the comments down below, 
Till next time kitties! 

Thursday, 22 June 2017

Stud earrings DIY storage

Heeeeeeeey everyone!

I haven't been around much the blog world lately but here's a quick DIY to catch up on the weekend!

For now I wanted to throw out a quick DIY post; so quick and organised you'll have your mind blown instantly!

I'm one of those people that have an everlasting; ever growing collection of stud earrings for work, leisure and date days when my poor tire earlobes can't carry a set of chandeliers or droopy beaded works of art. A variety of definitely more than 20 pairs of study earrings. The average jewelry lover often finds themselves in a bit of a pickle and opts to buy the set of 4 for merely a single pair that they initially wanted, But what happens when your favourite pair get lost among a dark abyss of earring hell only because you pack all of them in a single storage container or displace unit?

Honestly speaking most of us pop our earrings off and leave them either on your dresser or bedside table and barely manage to locate them when you want to use them again. So what do you do?

You organize of course!

Here's a quick trick to store all your earrings in one place while you can still display it.

  • All you'll need is some cardboard; preferably a4 size depending on how many pairs of earrings you have.
  • A pin
  • Some earrings 

The basic guidelines on how to do this is simple:
Take your pin and simply pop pairs of holes into your cardboard. I used some old cardboard I had from some previous craft work and eventually got tired of it ( so please mind the presstick glue stains, I assure you it doesn't make a difference unless it's affecting the integrity/strength of the board). Make sure that there's enough space between them to ensure that you can easily screw them securely at the back.

And that's it! You're done! Plug in all your earrings and you finally have a way to keep everything in one spot.
You can string up the cardboard depending on how thick and sturdy your cardboard is. Put it on display by hanging it on a hook or place it on a shelf. It's entirely up to you!

Hoping this simple tutorial helps you with your storage goals in future!

See you soon!

Tuesday, 6 June 2017

Wondrous Wonder Woman: A Movie Review

Heeeeeeey everyone!

So I managed to catch a screening of Wonder Woman this weekend and it was spectacular!

Honestly, I was seriously nervous and went in without much expectation knowing almost 0 about what the story-line would bring apart from the majestic trailers and theatrical posters released, I was pleasantly surprised around 120 minutes later walking out the theatre.

So in spoiler free fashion here's a quick review of the movie and a few reasons I'd advise you to get viewing:

  • Diana Prince aka Wonder Woman does have an origin story and this is it! One of many reasons being we get a peak into her life before she became girl wonder. It explores her home, her "birth" and adolescent lifestyle before departing the beautiful Thermiscyra to explore her destiny.
  • Wonder Woman has much to do with Greek mythology. If you're into that then it's a must watch and if you're not fear not, the movie does not dwell too much in it however does hold much prominence in a few key characters.
  • Harry Potter fans will see a familiar face; David Thewlis aka Remus Lupin our beloved Werewolf playing a prominent part in a small but important duration of the movie. 
  • The movie takes place in World War 1, a time in which "Wonder Woman" first makes an appearance. If your question is when and how did Diana Prince become Wonder Woman then this movie is your answer.
  • There's tons of action. Gal Gadot's training regime comprised of a number of dedicated hours per day in which her transformation took place. She served a period of training in her defense force for Israel, her country of birth. Gal was actually pregnant for a small duration of shooting! Now that's some serious real life Wonder Woman ish! 
  • Romance abound, chemistry sparks between Steve Trevor and Diana Prince. Chris Pine has definitely come a long way since his Princess Diaries days and depicts the perfect opposite for Gal with his character as Steve Trevor; an American Spy who's been sent to Germany to retrieve secrets and ends up being rescued by Diana.
  • If you're anything like myself and find weird parallels in things then you'll find a large likeliness in Captain America after watching Wonder Woman; the timing and a certain set of actions.
  • Strangely enough I find similarity in God Of War; the Playstation 2 and 3 game in which is deeply set in Greek mythology but still has bits of innovation thrown into the mix.
  • Feminists Unite. I can't stress enough the power of feminism portrayed in this movie for the right reasons,
So there, go to your nearest movie house and catch this flick with your girlfriends, family or your man, there's very little room for disappointment and even if you're not a superhero fan, it's still a movie to simply catch for beautiful dialogue, immaculate stunts and setting while maintaining an amazing level beautiful cinema! 

South African viewer's were lucky to receive complimentary Wonder Woman sunglasses if you booked at Ster Kinkekor IMAX 3D cinemas. Stocks are limited so get yourself to one near you!

Life Update:
It's been a while since I've gotten a blog post up, in my defense it's been one of those years where things don't necessarily go to plan and you don't really get to do the things you love. But alas, I'm back after studying a short course and completing my degree and while now having some time for myself I'd like to kick it back to good old blog posting and browsing for hours on end. If there's anything you'd like to read about, then feel free to drop me a good old comment. While that's in the mix I have a few more DIY's and perfume reviews coming up so keep ya eyes peeled!

Catch ya soon kitties!
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